I bet you hear the word “no” regularly. It’s true that when your coworker or client starts saying no, it can be cruel. But saying “yes” to everything won’t solve the problem. opposite of this. This will only increase your stress, not to mention that others will value your time less. Once you say yes to someone multiple times, they will start expecting him…every time…
I have faced this problem many times before. I wanted to be involved in everything and show my willingness to learn. But at a certain point, I learned that I had to get my feet back on the ground.
Once I started really asserting myself, learning to assert myself, things changed. And luckily! I learned to be a little more oriented toward what I like, by constantly trying to say no, while keeping my working relationships the way they should be. I know this is easier said than done, but these few tips might help. Instead read the following.
be honest, Explain that you have other commitments and cannot meet your interlocutor’s needs.
Hurry up, Immediately, but politely (very important) tell your interlocutor that you cannot do what he is asking. That way you don’t delay someone else’s plans. You too will proceed in the same way.
ask to postpone your request, Sometimes we really want to do something, but unfortunately we don’t have time. So always set a clear schedule of your actions to show your good faith and your professionalism.
suggest an alternative, Suggest someone else who can help in your place.
Want to set criteria for what to say yes to and what to say no to? very good idea ! This will facilitate decision making. To achieve this, ask yourself the right questions before making a decision:
- Do I really want to do this?
- What do I gain by doing this?
- What has this person done for me lately?
- What would I do with my time if I didn’t?
Saying “no” can be awkward and certainly takes practice, but once you get over your fear of saying it, you’ll find it’s easy! Very easy too! Just try to be pleasant and polite at all times. This is the most important.
But why not say
One of the biggest challenges in saying no is achieving FOMO (fear of missing out). But really think about the benefits of saying it:
- To be a successful entrepreneur you have more control over your life;
- You have more confidence when you have to surpass yourself;
- You have time to do everything that you have been avoiding;
- You will be more confident when you have to say “no” more often (I agree, the first time is the hardest);
- You have so many possibilities within your reach that you didn’t even know about it. Since you have more available now, take advantage of it!
Now, take your courage in both hands and learn how to say no to what doesn’t work for you or what doesn’t meet your needs. Come on, don’t be afraid to say no. You deserve to take time for yourself too.
Source : Contractor